Gym Daycare Finally, FINALLY, a Success

group exercise class

I love that group exercise is now a possibility again! Credit: lululemon athletica

So remember that post I wrote about separation anxiety at the gym daycare? Back in July? Well, we are finally, finally, at long last, doing better with the separation anxiety. Meaning I can take an exercise class without knowing that I will definitely get interrupted. Meaning that occasionally, when I hear the “Attention members and guests” announcement, it’s not me they’re calling for.

It has taken serious time and patience and interrupted workouts to get to this point. I think it has helped that my daughter’s having regular play dates away from me with the neighbor kids. But like sleeping through the night, it was like a developmental milestone that my daughter just had to hit. The progress was slow and painstaking. She went from crying the minute she hit the daycare doors to only crying as I was leaving. She went from making me carry her in to walking in and turning around to get her name-tag sticker on her back. She went from tearful relief upon my return to happy hugs sans tears.

It’s not perfect by any stretch. After a few weeks of hour-long successes at the gym, I got called back during the last few minutes of a Pilates class last week because she was getting upset about my absence. And kid No. 2 has had an occasion or two when he’s needed my attention. But really, it has been so much better. I don’t get an anxious knot in my stomach as we hit the gym. My daughter has learned the names of some of the staff. She loves using the daycare bathroom as a stalling technique. (And I’ll take any potty successes I can get.)

So my advice for other moms who think their kiddo will never adjust to a different situation? They will. It just may take lots and lots and lots of time and patience. —Erin


Comments

  1. Melissa says

    Definitely went through this with my first (who is now 2.5). I didn’t attempt to leave him until he was over a year; rethinking that strategy with my almost 3 month old. But I agree with you – it just takes time, and it really is a win-win. The kiddos get some socialization time with other kids, and we get some much needed workout and alone time!

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